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NEWS | Dec. 24, 2014

I won't be home for Christmas

By Airman 1st Class J.D. Maidens 11th Wing Public Affairs

A deployment during the holidays can be one of many challenges faced by military spouses.

This is a trial that Stephanie Akins, wife of Stephen Akins, a 459th Air Refueling Wing pilot, is no stranger to.

"This is his 7th deployment, the 2nd during the holidays," said Akins, a mother of three.

Missing out on Christmas Eve lasagna and Christmas cinnamon rolls, Akins family traditions, can be hard, but the family knows how to make the best of the situation.

"This year, we had a Christmas dinner before he left," said Akins, an exercise physiologist turned stay-at-home mom. "We're lucky to have family here; it makes Christmas a lot easier."

Christmas can be difficult for the Akins family with loved ones away.

"It gets lonely without him here," Akins said. "But the older the kids get, the better they understand."

Although the kids adjust to deployments more every year, it is still a difficult experience.

"It makes me sad," said Luke Akins, age 9.

"The first and last weeks are the hardest," Akins said. "The kids know they can take advantage, having great in-laws helps."

The Akins always celebrate after a deployment is finished.

"We take a trip every time; sometimes to the North Carolina mountains, sometimes to Colorado to visit family," said Akins. "This year, we're going to Disney World."

Through it all, this mother keeps a great attitude, something she recommends to others in similar situations.

"Stay positive," said Akins. "Surround yourself with friends that you aren't afraid to ask for help."